This Post Dedicated To Matt Swain

Well fine citizens of the Interwebs, here I am, returned to the world of bloggery after a brief hiatus. My impromptu sabbatical was brought about not only by how busy I've been over the last two months or so, but also by the way all my thoughts have been jumbled up inside my head like a big freakin ball of Christmas lights that I, despite my best efforts, cannot seem to untangle. Many times I've come across ideas, shining brightly like the aforementioned lights, but I can't pick them out of the mess of cords and wires in order to make anything worthwhile out of them, so tonight I'm gonna try something different than usual. Instead of trying to showcase the individual bulbs on the string, I'm just gonna start at the beginning, follow the cord until I untangle a knot, and work my way down the rest of it until I get to the end. Hopefully by the time I plug it in, it'll look a lot better than it did before, and I think if I squeeze that metaphor any more, I'll be venturing into Coms 550 territory, and we all know that's where metaphors go if they haven't accepted Jesus.

I just turned 23, celebrating my first birthday at home since I turned 17, and I've realized something about birthdays: they're kind of frivolous, at least by this age. Sure, when you're younger, everyone gets excited about you turning another year older, and you feel "bigger," and every birthday leads up to another important milestone in your life. 21, however, is the last true milestone, and most people would consider it the biggest, as you're legal to drink alcohol at that age. The irony, though, is that all the people excited about being able to legally drink have no doubt already been drunk countless times, and the people who haven't don't really care about drinking anyway. But now, there's nothing super special about birthdays, I'm just getting older and older, and the numbers are steadily increasing, like an odometer ticking away as the miles roll on. And speaking of odometers, do you stop and give your car a gift every time it reaches another thousand miles? I think the concept of birthday presents is a little misguided. Don't get me wrong, I love getting gifts on my birthday (or any other time of year, for that matter), but let's bear in mind people, they are just that: gifts. It annoys me any time I hear somebody say "you deserve it" in regards to a birthday present or party or any other such trapping that goes along with the celebration of the event. Why, exactly, do you deserve that present? Because you lived to see the passing of another year? You don't deserve any presents, you get them from people that love you for precisely that reason, they love you and they're happy to see that you've stuck around for as long as you have. I suppose I've answered my own question (which I never formally stated, but it was "why do people get presents on their birthdays?"), so I guess this blog is a success already.

As I was saying though, I turned 23, and there wasn't anything terribly exciting about it. It was similar last year when I reached the nebulous age of 22... it's enough to make me question why we even bother celebrating it anymore. On the other hand, the age of 23 has the distinct honor of being mentioned in no less than three punk songs that I can think of right off the top of my head:

Nobody likes you when you're 23 (Blink 182 - What's My Age Again?)
We're almost 23 and you're still mad at me (Yellowcard - Twenty Three)
17, 18, 19 routine and here at 23 it's the same old me (Relient K - Maintain Consciousness)

Maybe there's something to being 23 that's gained it so much infamy in the punk music scene (don't even start with all the associations implied in that Jim Carrey movie, that's nothing but a novel bit of bollocks; furthermore, don't dissect my definition of "punk," just roll with it)... or maybe it's just the fact that it's the only age relevant to the genre that rhymes with "me." I guess I'll just have to wait and see what the next year offers up.

I mentioned drinking earlier, and incidentally, I got to experience interaction with a real live drunk person for the first time just recently. I had always heard that drunk people are funny, and to be honest, it's true, they are, but I also noticed something striking the other day. Once this particular fellow had had enough to drink to render him inebriated, everyone was constantly laughing at everything he did or said. While he is naturally a funny guy, I noted that his words and actions weren't really all that much funnier than normal. Everyone was treating him as though he had reached some transcendent state of humorous enlightenment, but it was pretty standard fare, so I didn't quite get what the big deal was. Like I said, the stuff he was doing was funny anyway, and would have gotten laughs if he had done it sober... and he would have done most of those same things sober, which is why the flag went up in my head. He was just being himself (albeit a slightly drunker version), only the laughs were heartier and more plentiful than usual. And then it hit me. The reason it was so funny wasn't because he was being funny, it was because his state of mind was altered by the alcohol, causing him to, in everyone else's view, do things that were funnier than usual. Apparently if you're not entirely in control of what you're doing, everything you do is that much more hilarious (whether you'd be doing it normally or not), and at that point, it stopped seeming funny and started seeming patronizing. Something to think about, folks: what are you laughing at, the person, or how the person is affected by a controlled substance?

To be honest, I really don't understand drinking as an activity. For one thing, it tastes disgusting, and for another thing, it inhibits your cognitive and physical processes. I suppose the latter would generally considered a benefit by the majority of Americans in my age group, but I don't need to get drunk to have a good time; I'm off-the-wall enough as it is, so why should I pump a bunch of potentially harmful chemicals into my body? On Saturday night, Chris and I went to a Halloween party the other night at a frat house on RPI's campus. I had a general inclination as to what it would be like (nothing to really do but drink, and I don't drink), but I figured, what the heck, I'd never experienced one before, so it might at least be interesting to see what goes on at one of those things. Plus, it was Halloween, and our plans for trick-or-treating had been dashed by the rain, so I wanted more people to see my costume and to see some other costumes as well, and a party seemed just as good a place as any for that. Well, I did see some costumes, including a sweet Rorschach costume, but otherwise it was a total waste of time (I doubt anyone even recognized who I was dressed as). It was dark and sweltering, with wall-to-wall bodies cramming the whole building, and music so loud I could barely hear myself think over the thumping bass beat. And, as I had predicted, the primary attraction was the alcohol, so basically my only option was to hang back around the wall and watch a bunch of sweaty drunk college students grind each other while other sweaty drunk college students pushed and shoved their way through the crowd. That got old real fast, and Chris and I left as soon as we had put in a requisite amount of time hanging around with a couple of his friends. The conclusion I drew from this experience was that secular campuses must be pretty boring, since it seems like the only thing there is to do is drink. Sure, there's not a whole lot to "do" at Liberty, but when everyone's just getting trashed, that's not "doing" anything either. It's not a social activity, because you're not interacting with people, you're interacting with intoxicated, alternate reality versions of those people, and there's a good chance they won't remember what happened anyway. I don't know how that passes for a good time.

Switching gears, earlier today I went to the mall by myself, and I was walking in the direction of Barnes & Noble. I was lost in thought, totally in the zone, when suddenly I heard "Young man, would you like to open an account?" I stopped, momentarily bewildered, and looked at the source of this intrusion to my thought processes. It was a middle aged lady standing outside a jewelry store with a clipboard. I didn't know what kind of account she was pestering me about, and I didn't care, so I just said "No thanks, I'm good," and kept right on walking. The occurrence was odd enough, since I wasn't even looking in her direction and she had called out to me for seemingly no reason other than that I was alone (and presumably vulnerable), but I shook it off and reached my destination without further incident. On my way back from Barnes & Noble, after looking at some sweet Green Lantern books (Rebirth and Sinestro Corps War, for anyone who's interested), I walked down the other side of the mall, and again I was completely zoned when, from out of nowhere, I'm blasted with "How are you doing?" Again, it's a chick out in front of a jewelry store, but this time it's a different jewelry store, and the girl is younger and actually fairly attractive. I was still annoyed at the interruption, but in the vein of politeness I said "Good, how are you?" to which she replied "Good, thanks," but by that time I was already several steps away, having escaped the pitch for the account she wanted me to open or whatever other kind of nonsense in which she was trying to get me to partake. Same as last time, I was walking at a steady pace, not looking at this girl in the slightest and certainly not making eye contact, yet she picked me off anyway. I wonder what it is about a twenty-something male alone in the mall that makes him a prime target for harassment of this kind outside a jewelry store; do I really fit their target demographic? If so, I can't imagine why.

If you've kept with me this long and you're wondering why this post was dedicated to Matt Swain, it's because he's been a faithful follower of my blog since its inception (as far as I can tell) and he recently admonished me to keep them coming. Not wanting to fail my public (especially my former prayer leader), I decided to sit down and plunk one out, regardless of how disjointed it may have been, and this post is the fruit of my labor. I'm glad I did, because I feel like I've worked out a few of my mental kinks, and from now on I'm gonna try to write these at more regular intervals. Matt, I hope you (and any other readers) found this enjoyable; it's no substitute for a small yellow placard, but this is the best offering of Joy I can give you right now. Hopefully it's adequate.